This is because men enter the dating arena for different reasons from women. While women are looking for men who would make good husbands, men simply date for the fun of it. Basically, they're primarily out to have a good time, with hopes of finding a “girlfriend material” woman coming only in second. Put simply, men love meeting women while keeping their “freedom” intact at the same time.
This is mainly because the great men out there – the attractive, successful, independent ones – are perfectly happy with their single life. And when they think about getting into a relationship, they wonder if it'll add to or take away the fun that they're currently enjoying.
So when they get into a relationshp with you, they wonder, “will she take away my freedom?” Remember that this “freedom” stands for everything he finds enjoyable in his single life, be they his friends, his relatives, his hobbies, his career, etc. So if you seem to encroach into his routines so much that he starts enjoying his freedom less, then he'll start missing his old life and want it back – yes, even if he does like you very much.
I'm aware that many women think that it's the guy's job to work and sacrifice to make the relationship work. But, dear friend, there's a reason why guys like that only show up in fairy tales. Once a guy realizes that a relationship with you involves more work and less fun, then don't you think it's in his best interests to end it?
Fortunately, every relationship doesn't have to end that way. There are ways to get into a good, lasting relationship with a man without him having to let go of the things he loves. Here are the two things that the great men out there want in a woman.
First, the great men out there find emotional maturity attractive. The reason why men don't like clingy women is that they come off as “needy.” Women who rush into relationships are also more likely to be fussy over the little things, like missed phone calls, dates, and other women. These women are emotionally immature, and it's one of the biggest turnoffs for men.
Basically, men look for women who are emotionally stable and can “roll with the punches.” While problems inevitably come, women who can deal with these problems and still lead happy lives are very attractive to the more independent men – so it's a skill worth practicing!
Secondly, the great men out there look for women who support their freedom. In other words, they're looking for women who can seamlessly fit into his lifestyle and actually enhance the fun he's getting from it. If you make the effort to get along with his friends, his family, his hobbies, and his career, then chances are you're in for a long, fulfilling relationship with a real catch.(Aaron Adams)
